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How Happy Are You?

I loved this quote because it seems like everyone is doing everything to tick of a grocery list,  rather than asking the simple question? How happy are you?

Am I happy?

It’s scary; everyone in this world is living and surviving for this simple fact, that we have no other choice but to live. So many people are living for fame, for popularity, for friendship and to simply be accepted, which is honestly a shame. I ask you are you happy with this lifestyle and how long do you think you can keep this lifestyle up? Most of the key motivational speakers will say that – “Materialistic things cannot buy happiness”, yet so many young people, (except a few) I see around myself are trying to hunt for this happiness in these very things, but even those few have yet succeeded into finding their own happiness? Why is this? Why are you not happy with the life you already have? What is it that you are missing in your life that will make you truly happy with where you are?

What does happy mean?

I recently did a search on Oxford dictionary for the true meaning of “Happy” the answer was “Feeling or showing pleasure or contentment

It’s a pretty straight forward meaning don’t you think? When we express feelings of pleasure or contentment from ourselves, it means we are happy. How often do you feel like this? Do you feel like something is missing? Does your happiness come from natural things or do you have to have materialistic things to show the world that you are happy? When you realise that is all you have to offer is the latest designer, doesn’t that bother you? It will most certainly bother me if people didn’t see me for who I am rather than my social status. People like that no longer exist in my life thank God. Why because people don’t realise all this stuff fades away and when you are away from this world, you remove yourself from the lies and fake that people portray to the world.

Two weeks ago I decided, I needed a break from the social media world; I needed to recognise that I was blessed and happy within myself. Now don’t get me wrong I knew all this already, sometimes I think you can get stuck in this world and see what everyone else has, things you don’t have and think to yourself if I had these things I might just be happy.

No.

You should be happy with where your life is and where it is going; if you don’t like where it is and where it is going you most definitely need to consider changing it. It might be simple things like, your attitude, the people around you, your environment – the list goes on but the first step is recognising that you need to find happiness within yourself.

I am no expert in telling people how to live their lives and finding happiness and I most certainly still have things I need to change about myself, nevertheless I can honestly say I have never been so happy in a long time with myself. I know myself and the people I have around me. They are genuine people with good hearts. I feel that my life can only go upwards from here and I truly believe that. Of course there will be hiccups along the way, but I know with the strength of God, I will overcome any issue that comes my way.

Life is very simple; sometimes we just over complicate life so much. I am a huge victim of this. Yes there will be problems, they will be hard times, but look around you, and recognise there are many things in life to appreciate.

The problem with all of us is, we try to look for happiness in others, and rather, we ourselves should be the very source of happiness. We have to fill our souls spiritually and mentally happy and completely move on with life without any expectations from others. Don’t expect but give and go on and have a little faith, happiness will come back to you in many ways you can’t imagine!

Just remember life isn’t a grocery list, life is for living and as I will always say “you must live your best life”

What does happiness mean to you? Have you found your own happiness?

:):)

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BLACK BRITISH BLOGGERS SOCIAL #BBBSOCIAL

It’s summer & I hope you are all doing really well… (you can tell I love the sun right?) I know it’s been a while, but I did say I would be back here and there! Anyways…. I went to The First Black British Bloggers Social event @BB_Bloggers and finally met the founder! There was also a number of amazing bloggers, vloggers, podcasters and black business owners! It was a great chance to meet people, network and learn about building your platform and others! Enjoy the vlog lovely peeps! P.S I deleted some of the videos so not the all of the event is there but you get the drift!

What I was wearing to Black British Bloggers Social Event:

Blouse: http://bit.ly/2sqSstu

Jeans: http://bit.ly/2qT6Ske

Shoes: http://bit.ly/2qSFovc

Speakers at the event:

Jay Curlture ~ https://www.youtube.com/user/CURLtureUK

Ronke Lawal ~ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCu6p…

Ade Akins ~ ADZVICE.com

Nicola Millington ~ https://marketingwithlove.wordpress.c…

Yvette Henry ~ goo.gl/1PJvIq

Tatenda Ubuntugraphy~ @ubuntugraphy

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Blogger Spotlight: Adebola of MyBreakingViews| Black British Bloggers

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Introducing Adebola of MyBreakingViews…

Tell us a bit about yourself and your blog.

I am MyBreakingViews and I love stating an opinion, so when it came to creating a blog I knew I would find it easy to talk about political issues that surround us as a society because it changes all the time. I also loooove travelling! I’ve done over 30 places around the world and I have sought to share that with people.

I recently started my YouTube channel also called MyBreakingViews (subscribe). I have a huge passion for helping people and letting everyone state their views. I believe in using MyBreakingViews as a platform for opinions to be shared!

When did you start blogging and what motivated you to start?

I originally started a blog three years ago on my travels as I did a study exchange in Singapore and travelled all over South East Asia. However I felt like this was common so decided to start a blog on political and social justice issues that I felt young people needed to know about.

I have since grown and realised there are so many other avenues that I could explore, like my faith (I’m a born again Christian), my travels and just my life.

How has your blog evolved since starting your blogging journey?

Oh wow. This is a question I had to really think about. I can definitely say I have grown as a person. I started on Blogger – I had no idea about blogging, editing or even like headers, footers, URL. I was lucky that my boyfriend at the time was a graphic designer and he did sort me out but then I stopped because I just felt like I wasn’t putting my all into it.

I now use WordPress and GoDaddy as my host, I actually spent money because I knew I would take it seriously once I payed up. I am so glad I made that decision. The support I have received has been amazing and I am constantly growing and learning new things everyday, trust me.

What has been the most challenging part about running a blog?

I would say the most challenging aspect of running a blog is staying consistent! It is so hard especially when it’s cold and life gets in the way. I just found myself making excuses because I didn’t know what to write.

I learnt the best way to keep on top of my writing was to write on my phone especially when I am constantly on the move. In fact this influenced me to start my YouTube channel because I knew I could share my opinions on another scale and widen my platform with another skill.

What’s your favourite post/s and why?

I love my posts on my very own political views but due to my area of work I have had to take a step back and find other ways to grow MyBreakingViews as a brand. I would say my fave posts now are about my travelling because I am sharing my own experiences.

Where do you see yourself and your blog in five years’ time?

This puts me on the spot! Where do I start? I have connected my blog with my YouTube channel and I hope to actually be able to use the two to talk about political issues and real life social issues that affect our community, I don’t what it to just be my views, I want it to be all of your views too.

In a nutshell, I want MyBreakingViews to become a social political platform, a news channel and a website to talk about travel, lifestyle, politics, makeup and ministry! Amen!

Do you have any bloggers you admire and follow yourself?

Yes I mean where do I start lol! I really love Christian bloggers like Wunms and also Shirley B because she helps me tap into my girly side.

Your blog centres around your personal opinions on politics as well as travel. Do you have any advice for bloggers who want to do something similar?

Yes, be you. Don’t be afraid to talk about your views! When I write about social political issues, I would sometimes think about what other people would think and it was only when someone set me straight and asked me what is MyBreakingViews. It is my view! When you have to say something, do not worry about what people think. It’s what you think, it’s is your own Breaking View!

In terms of travel, I say it in my posts – travel! Travel somewhere new every year and talk about your experiences because everyone’s experience is always different. Other than that stay consistent, enjoy the journey and enjoy the growth.

What are your hopes for the Black British Blogging community?

That we get bigger and greater. We have so much to say as black people and I absolutely live for it and love it! Black people face barriers on a day to day basis and I love when bloggers/YouTubers use their platforms to talk about these things.

Visit My Breaking Views blog and YouTube channel. You can also follow her on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.

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BE YOUR #1 FAN

Hello again, today I will be talking about being your number one fan!

I can’t believe how quickly this year is going already! So many people are building and creating new spaces, business ideas, vlogs, blogs, etc – and I think it’s great! But who is your biggest fan? Do you have any support from the people close to you? Do they even help promote your platform?

Be Your Number one Fan

This article steams from the “My Friends Do Not Support Me – click here to read further I feel that so far, I have started the year out with new plans for my space and I’m grateful to every one of you who continues to support, like, share, and most importantly encourage me with new ideas. It has always surprised me how people who don’t even know me have showed so much support!  When I first started out my website, I expected my website to blow. Heck, I expected to have a huge fan base of people to start sharing their views on political issues which affect them the most. It was only after a while that I realised how unrealistic I was being with myself.

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Happy First Day Of The Month Everyone! ?? New Blog Post For Your Morning commutes!!! _________________________________________________ I can’t believe how quickly this year is going already! So many people are building and creating new spaces, business ideas, vlogs, blogs, etc. – and I think it’s great! But who is your biggest fan? Do you have any support from the people close to you? Do they even help promote your platform? ________________________________________________ This article steams from the “My Friends Do Not Support Me” – click >here to read further. @wunms ________________________________________________ I feel that so far, I have started the year out with new plans for my space and I’m grateful to every one of you who continues to support, like, share, and most importantly encourage me with new ideas. It has always surprised me how people who don’t even know me have showed so much support! _______________________________________________ When I first started out my website, I expected my website to blow. Heck, I expected to have a huge fan base of people to start sharing their views on political issues which affect them the most. It was only after a while that I realised how unrealistic I was being with myself. It was then that I realised that I had to be my own number 1 fan! (Read more on: www.mybreakingviews.com) ________________________________________________ #MyBreakingViews #MBVLifestyle #blackbritishbloggers #bloggers #lifestyleblogger ???❤

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It was then that I realised that I had to be my own number one fan!

Don’t get me wrong, my family (my auntie ‘Lola always proof reads my work – thank you auntie); and friends do share a lot of tips and support me, but I always expected more. I know many or a lot of my friends don’t read my blog posts, haven’t read or never plan to do so. It’s not a terrible thing but when some still ask me what I write about, it does raise concerns and gives clear indication that they haven’t even looked at the site – which of course, is disheartening! I am extremely passionate about what I write about; and when you or I expect to see other people share similar interest and they don’t seem to, you begin to question yourself “am I wasting my time”?

“I’m I making any impact”? “Should I just pull the plug now”?  I have been praying to God about my platform and have realised that I no longer want to be in a place that anxiously expects fans. I no longer have high expectations of my friends or family to share my content, like comment or support anything I’m doing with my space.

Don’t get me wrong, support from my close family and friends would be good but from now on I am my own fan – in fact I am my own biggest fan – and that’s exactly how it’s going to be from now on! I know now that I only get out of this as much as I put into it, so cheers to me being my own biggest fan! I want to leave you with some pointers to take on – which I’ve learnt from my own blogging and also from other people I’ve asked….

– Be Your Own Biggest Fan

Yes, your expectations for people to follow your business idea, blog or whatever it, is can still be quite high – which is a beautiful thing. Don’t bring it down – because I’ve always believed that it’s good to set for yourself high standards, dreams and expectations. There are in fact no limits in this world – other than the ones which we create for ourselves. So you should always boost yourself up.


 Stay Passionate

I have recently been asking lots of people for advice on their personal platforms, especially those that are doing well in the time scale that I have had my platform. One  important thing I learnt was that I needed to stop thinking about the views, followers and comments. I only have to make sure that my platform is crisp, looks good, adds value and most importantly shows my passion.

– Find your audience

I know you want your idea to touch people or have an impact, otherwise why would you be doing it? I understand. One of the things I was taught when I asked around was that I need fellow bloggers who discuss the same things as I do. Since then, I have made an effort to contact political, lifestyle and travel bloggers; followed groups etc. It gets exhausting I know but there is so much that you can do to get yourself out there. It depends on how much you want to excel and succeed.

The only approval you really need is God’s

This may sound slightly contradictory because I have earlier said ‘be your own biggest fan’. The Bible is explicit about the God’s Sprit lives in you. “You are therefore not in the flesh, but in the Spirit, if in fact the Sprit of God dwells in you. Anyone whoever does not have the Spirit of Christ does not belong to Him”.

Romans 8:9  Now I know, right. It’s easy to get caught up only in the worldly things. It’s easy to fall astray and seek only the approval of man. However, I promise you that this can be your biggest downfall in anything you do in your life. Relying on people to be your fans and or seeking approval from them doesn’t matter if you haven’t sought it from God first. I speak to God regularly and when I write something, I always ask for His opinion and approval; trust that He approves of my work.

Final thoughts

Therefore seek God’s approval first; not man’s. ‘Am I now persuading men, or God? Or am I seeking to please men? If I were still pleasing men, I should not be a servant of Christ’. Galatians 1:10 I hope this post really encourages you to not only seek God but to also keep on encouraging yourself.

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Are You Broke This Christmas?

Oh the 25th of December has not always been the best day for me until. Well not until the last few years when I have spent it with family that actually count. It’s a day for many of us to spend with family or friends (I say that with caution). To buy presents and to simply stuff your face until the sight of food makes you want to throw up.

Apologies for the imagery on the last one. But as we get older or as I have gotten older, I noticed  that my Christmas list continues to grow longer and longer and the presents become more expensive. As an adult you can no longer buy your cousin a cheap mascara right? I’m beginning to feel the dizziness of present buying and gift wrapping… I’m sure you are too. It’s estimated that over 25% of us spend more than we actually have on Christmas presents – ouch that’s a lot! Hence the reason I have decided to write a quick process on how you can save some money and if you carry on reading this, you can even save a lot of money or not spend a dime.

Right, let’s get started!!

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Don’t buy anything for anyone!

I have never done this before. Come on. The awkwardness when you are opening up presents and you haven’t got anything for the person giving you is not the best scenario anyone wants to be in on Christmas Day.. I will be taking my own advice this time around. Think I’m quite lucky as I won’t be spending Christmas as I normally do because of a scheduled minor operation. The not buying anything for anyone would need to be agreed with everyone. At least those that you plan to spend the day with of course; as that could be again extremely awkward. I know many families that do it now and they feel that Christmas is a day to be spent with family and be warm and cosy.

Make your gifts yourself.  I have to say, last year my cousin was proactive in saving money at Xmas and to be fair she made some really lovely presents that I used throughout this year. Yes, you’ll be surprised what you can find on websites such as eBay and Amazon. My cousin found natural ingredients to make lip balms, hand creams, shampoo, perfumes, the lot. It was the best selling point is that when a friend or family member opens the present it was all made with love and the natural goodness. Ohh and it’s good for you!

Secret Fanta AKA Secret Santa 

Now I think this can work really well if you come from a big family and even a small family. Why not buy one present for the family, something they all can all use or share. I think everyone knows how this goes right. But if you don’t … like you do with your friends or work colleagues. You get your families names in a bag ( go by surnames if you can) and you have the youngest (within reason) pick the names out of the bag. Your family will buy for that family. Warning! It does require reuniting before Christmas or whenever you decide to exchange presents. And the present. Well I’m not the best at presents, but it could go really well and will be coat effective.  

Why not? A fave series may go a long way – Game of Thrones maybe? Or why not a good old box of celebration or quality streets. If your family is like mine they can then give that to another family who will appreciate it. I would like a holiday. But that may be pushing it especially if you only get a box of celebrations in return. Hey it is the thought that counts and in life I’ve learnt you don’t give to receive. All the same, please remember the reason for Christmas and try to enjoy it for yourself and even for me.

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We need more speeches like that of Jesse Williams

Let’s face it, we have all experienced racism at some point in life – whether you are white, black, yellow or green.

Memories…

I remember so clearly as a young child growing up in a predominately white area; recall knocking on my friend’s door for him to come out and play. I could see that the TV was on but no one came to the door. To cut the story short, my friend came to me the following day at school to apologise and say that his brother hated black people and that’s why the door wasn’t answered. I was only 11 then and simply laughed it off. What else could I do?

This short story brings me to discuss The BET awards that happened last week. More and more events have become more politicised! Isn’t it just great? It goes with exactly what I’ve been saying- which is, everything is politics … (within reason of course) There is a sense of black politicians arising, standing and becoming more and more unapologetic. I wish I had the sense to do at that young age. So because of my failure to stand up for myself when I had the chance, I’ve decided to open up a new page of political entertainment. So do read on.

Last Sunday was the BET awards, which had a lot of shocking performances. Beyoncé (my queen) and Kendrick Lamar’s opening performances. Ushers performance “Don’t trump America”. There was an underlying message being clearly displayed here don’t you think?

Jesse Williams who plays Jackson in the famous series Grey’s Anatomy spoke with integrity, displaying facts calling out and stating that we are not alone.

I watched his speech more than once. When he won his humanitarian reward, his speech was more than powerful, it was political. It stood for the political movement of black lives matter and touched me when he said:

“What we’ve been doing is looking at the data and we know that police somehow manage to de-escalate, disarm, and not kill white people every day. So what’s going to happen is we are going to have equal rights and justice in our own country, or we will restructure their function in ours. …

Yesterday would have been young Tamir Rice’s 14th birthday. So I don’t want to hear any more about how far we’ve come when paid public servants can pull a drive-by on a 12-year-old playing alone in a park in broad daylight, killing him on television and then going home to make a sandwich. Tell Rekia Boyd how it’s so much better to live in 2012 than it is to live in 1612 or 1712. Tell that to Eric Garner. Tell that to Sandra Bland. Tell that to Darrien Hunt.”

He spoke up not just for the audience that stood up and clapped for everything he said but everyone of black skin (like myself) that still today fights the prejudice, discrimination and hatred of racism!

You don’t need me tell you he was right because you know that he was! It is about time that we unite and speak out for what is right! Using music to get the message out is just one of the ways we can do that. There, of course, needs to be more said and more done, we still have a long way to go and we can do it!

We, therefore, need more speeches like that of Jesse Williams.

Peace peace. Thank you, Debra. Thank you, BET. Thank you Nate Parker, Harry and Debbie Allen for participating in that {video}.

Before we get into it, I just want to say I brought my parents out tonight. I just want to thank them for being here, for teaching me to focus on comprehension over career, and that they make sure I learn what the schools were afraid to teach us. And also thank my amazing wife for changing my life.

Now, this award – this is not for me. This is for the real organizers all over the country – the activists, the civil rights attorneys, the struggling parents, the families, the teachers, the students that are realizing that a system built to divide and impoverish and destroy us cannot stand if we do.

It’s kind of basic mathematics – the more we learn about who we are and how we got here, the more we will mobilize.

Now, this is also in particular for the black women in particular who have spent their lifetimes dedicated to nurturing everyone before themselves. We can and will do better for you.

Now, what we’ve been doing is looking at the data and we know that police somehow manage to deescalate, disarm and not kill white people everyday. So what’s going to happen is we are going to have equal rights and justice in our own country or we will restructure their function and ours.

Now… I got more y’all – yesterday would have been young Tamir Rice’s 14th birthday so I don’t want to hear anymore about how far we’ve come when paid public servants can pull a drive-by on 12 year old playing alone in the park in broad daylight, killing him on television and then going home to make a sandwich. Tell Rekia Boyd how it’s so much better than it is to live in 2012 than it is to live in 1612 or 1712. Tell that to Eric Garner. Tell that to Sandra Bland. Tell that to Dorian Hunt.

Now the thing is, though, all of us in here getting money – that alone isn’t gonna stop this. Alright, now dedicating our lives, dedicating our lives to getting money just to give it right back for someone’s brand on our body when we spent centuries praying with brands on our bodies, and now we pray to get paid for brands on our bodies.

There has been no war that we have not fought and died on the front lines of. There has been no job we haven’t done. There is no tax they haven’t leveed against us – and we’ve paid all of them. But freedom is somehow always conditional here. “You’re free,” they keep telling us. But she would have been alive if she hadn’t acted so… free.

Now, freedom is always coming in the hereafter, but you know what, though, the hereafter is a hustle. We want it now.

And let’s get a couple things straight, just a little sidenote – the burden of the brutalized is not to comfort the bystander. That’s not our job, alright – stop with all that. If you have a critique for the resistance, for our resistance, then you better have an established record of critique of our oppression. If you have no interest, if you have no interest in equal rights for black people then do not make suggestions to those who do. Sit down.

We’ve been floating this country on credit for centuries, yo, and we’re done watching and waiting while this invention called whiteness uses and abuses us, burying black people out of sight and out of mind while extracting our culture, our dollars, our entertainment like oil – black gold, ghettoizing and demeaning our creations then stealing them, gentrifying our genius and then trying us on like costumes before discarding our bodies like rinds of strange fruit. The thing is though… the thing is that just because we’re magic doesn’t mean we’re not real.

Thank you.

Racism is still live!

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