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Don’t TOUCH, Ask Q’s About MY HAIR

This is for the beautiful amazing black QUEENS out there in the corporate world that just want a new fresh hairstyle, but threat on how to deal with “those comments and questions” read more you will understand….

Warning you may want to apply a slight American dialect to this but I think regardless we all will appreciate!

Girls, girls, girllllls! I write this as I listen to Solonge – Don’t touch my hair! which I know y’all have listened too and can relate! If you haven’t then girlllll you better get on it! She speaks about our crown that they (you know who… and if you don’t you will) shouldn’t touch. I can’t tell you how sick, tired, annoyed but also slightly amused of feeling uncomfortable about doing my hair in different styles simply because of the working environment, my work colleagues in the past and present have put me in. I know, I know why should I care?! I shouldn’t but it’s hard when you go to work with that fresh new weave or those fresh new braids, or coinrows were you’re of course feeling yourself as you should; then you have someone ask you.

“Your hair looks nice, how do they make it like that”

“It’s very interesting how they make your hair like that”

“Do you wash your hair when it’s in the weave”

“Your hair looks like you have snakes on your head”

“How long do you have to sit still for … ohhh no I couldn’t do that”

“Do you think they could do my hair like that I have…..

LOOK listen let me just stop you right there!

YES! These statements and questions can get annoying!

Let me tell you my most recent story….

I went to work with a curly wig (I made it myself so I was quite pleased) picture below so you get the idea. People at work (you know what sort of people I am talking about). Yes non-black people told me my hair was nice and all that ish; I appreciated it, but then someone had the cheek to then turn around and tell me my hair looked springy! Like what does he mean SPRINGY??

LIKE girlssss you know when a black person says your hair looks nice there’s a difference to when a non-black person says your hair looks nice. They wanna know more! They wanna follow it up with a detailed explanation on how your hair magically got like that! Like Please!

That type of shit be getting on my nerves!

When this person allowed his mouth to open and tell me my hair looked springy! At that very moment I just wanted to have an Issa moment, you know where I rap and drop a base on how curly hair ain’t springy! (I would write the lyrics but I stink at rap!) Instead I politely smiled and let that one slide. No one wants an angry black woman in the office right?

Anyways, anyways let’s face it I could be here all day telling you what stupid, ignorant statements I’ve received after spending time and money (lots) may I just add… on making myself look presentable in this corporate environment. Ok I’m really doing it for that weekend outing that we all got planned (you know how it goes right right!)

In all of this rant, there was a reason why I brought y’all here.

(Mix that British and American dialect now ladies)

Well basically, I just felt like someone (me) needed to provide some tips on how us black beautiful, Nubian queens goddesses cause you know we be royalty! And yes you amazing non-black people (cause you can learn something here too) should deal with such annoying questions and statements! I only have a few tips, but I’m sure you girls will be able to share some tips on how you deal with this situation so please, please girls, comment let us all share our stories on how we be dealing with these comments!

Don’t touch my hair, don’t touch my soul! – Literally!

I know I already mentioned Solange song but it an actual statement that needs to be heard! Have even seen people (non-black people may I add) listen to dance and actually twerk to this song (yes you’ve all seen Miley Cyrus right?)

I keep drifting sorry…. my point is that I personally think it’s okay to tell your colleagues not to touch your hair. Why not? You don’t know where there hands been! I think it’s how you say it may be an issue, but heck if you don’t someone gonna touch your expensive Afro (yes our hair is expensive ladies) or that extra virgin weave/hair that payed a lot of money for so girl you better tell em “don’t touch my hair”

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The comments just let them slide!

Lord knows I have to turn a blind eye when these stupid comments come my way! I remember when I just got these fresh and I mean fresh Ghana braids! I was feeling myself to then hear my colleague tell me that I looked like I had “snakes on my head” yes ladies read it again!

I’m sorry! But black hair is beautiful. It’s a masterpiece! You’re a “masterpiece” – Jazmin Sullivan (I’m just quoting lyrics today, but it’s needed) and I don’t appreciate you telling me that I look like I have snakes on my head. This one is not really for us sisters this is one for you Caucasian people, but if you do get those comments just let that one side please!

“No I don’t have snakes on my head. My hair was looking BRAND NEW and those comments are a big no no, because when Kim K be rocking that hairstyle it’s no longer snakes it’s called stylish! Why?!”

These people (you know who I mean) don’t mean it.

Okay this one is for you and me. I generally don’t think they mean to be mean, rude or ignorant. They are merely interested. I would say intrigued and damn right nosey but hey! we are amazing exotic people to them so we must represent when we are in the corporate world and educate those that lack the knowledge and exposure to the real world. And if they don’t understand just remind them of what “culture appreciation” is because you and I know it’s real (sips tea).

Be comfortable/confident in your hair style!

Yes girl be the Nubian Queen that you are rock that style! Slayyyyyy your hair. We all know that a woman’s hair is her masterpiece, her crown but this is something I am still trying to work really with. I have been on and off natural for about 3/4 years now and I can honestly say I still lack the confidence to rock my hair out naturally. It sits under that wig!

It’s sad I know but it’s me being very honest with you and myself. I even find it difficult having a new weave colour or braids because I hate the annoying comments/questions that come with it…. and I know I’m not the only one, but I know that this is a process and in time I will be able to slaaaaayyyy.

I hope these tips help you guys and as I’ve said please share some of your stories and tips!

Like Solange sings

Don’t touch my hair
When it’s the feelings I wear
Don’t touch my soul
When it’s the rhythm I know
Don’t touch my crown
They say the vision I’ve found
Don’t touch what’s there
When it’s the feelings I wear
They don’t understand
What it means to me
Where we chose to go
Where we’ve been to know
They don’t understand
What it means to me
Where we chose to go
Where we’ve been to know
You know this hair is my shit
Rode the ride, I gave it time
But this here is mine
You know this hair is my shit
Rode the ride, I gave it time
But this here is mine
What you say, oh?
What you say to me?
Don’t touch my pride
They say the glory’s all mine
Don’t test my mouth
They say the truth is my sound
They don’t understand
What it means to me
Where we chose to go
Where we’ve been to know
They don’t understand
What it means to me
Where we chose to go
Where we’ve been to know
You know this hair is my shit
Rode the ride, I gave it time
But this here is mine
You know this hair is my shit
Rode the ride, I gave it time
But this here is mine
What you say, oh?
What you say to me?

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MyBreakingViews Travel Diaries : Coachella

Welcome to the first entry of the MyBreakingViews Travel Diaries. I took this idea from one my fave travel bloggers Wanderlust Calls, check out her Black Girl Travel Diaries!!

So why have I decided to choose Coachella? Well it’s simple it has been the only place that I have been that is real time. Let me explain, it has been the only place that I have been too that (except Nigeria) I have written about while I am still travelling. You know most of the time I come back home (England) reflect ask people what they would like me to write about – no one ever applies and so I write what I want.

I wanted to write this post in the real time because I wanted you to see how different and open I can be when I’m abroad. You may not see it through my writing or my video below but me telling you should be a start.

So here goes my first real time travel diaries – I hope you enjoy it and I look forward to sharing more with you.

Please note I will be sharing old Travel Diaries but I wanted this to be the first.

See you soon…


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Coachella 2018 – What is it? Booking Flights, Festival Tickets & Hotel

I had planned to write while I was at Coachella (yeah – like that was ever going to happen). This was a very good idea at the time but then I realised I was enjoying myself way too much and just like that it turned out that I didn’t do a damn thing. Well, I did do something I ate good American food (Bubble Gum Shrimp try it), enjoyed the festival; gambled in Vegas; explored Arizona and caught a good old tan. (I do love catching a tan).

It’s been about a month since I went to Coachella and the reason why I haven’t written anything is simply that I have been debating what I should write about first. I asked my lovely followers what they wanted to hear first between Vegas and #Beychella!  I knew the answer was going to be Beychella, but I always like to hear from you guys first. It’s always important for me that I deliver content that you value!! I am pretty sure I will have to write a few articles about the festival itself, so if I haven’t covered everything you want to know, be sure to put your requests in the comments section below!

Since I have been back from America, the question I get asked is “how was COACHELLA” LOL! My immediate response is and always will be that “it was AMAZING”, because it if I’m honest it really was. Coachella in one word was amazing. Now don’t get me wrong there are several other words I can use to explain how the festival was, but I wanted MyBreakingViewers to be the first to know my actual initial thoughts. Now, before I get into the glitz and glam, I thought it would be good to give a personal overview of what Coachella is because I don’t expect everyone to know.

SIDE NOTE: Even if you do know what Coachella is, it may still be useful for you to read this section because I share some general tips for the event itself!

So, what is Coachella?

I like to think all my readers know what Coachella is, but if you don’t do not worry… because MyBreakingViews is going to explain it all to you….

Coachella is a huge festival held at the Empire Polo Club in Indio. The festival itself goes on for three days (Fri – Sun). There are two weekends, of which I attended the second week. People often have asked me was I prepared for the second week being that I saw the first week on social media. The answer to that my dear friends, is no. Watching the performances on social media, online whatever the platform, is completely different to experiencing it in person. Trust me!

YThe event has different artist perform at different stages, the Coachella stage being the main stage for headliners (on this occasion it was artists like The Weeknd, Kygo, Beyoncé, Eminem, Cardi B etc.)  All other artists are spread around the polo ground. (To give you a more visual idea, for those of you that live in the UK – its like a 3-day Wireless concert but with lots of heat!)

How was Coachella?

As I said before the event was AMAZING. I was in 45 degrees heat daily (I adore the sun). I saw most of my fave artist, was able to explore LA for the first time. Catch a bus to Vegas for a few days and see the famous Grand Canyon.

Coachella provided me with so many opportunities. This of course was only because I wasn’t about to take an 11-hour flight for just the weekend. BUT and there is always a BIG but… I must be honest with my readers and tell you that the event is also extremely exhausting!!! You are constantly on your feet for 6-9 hours a day (this can be dancing, walking to another stage for the next performance). Not to mention you are on the desert, so when the sand starts to blow around your breathing this in and to make matters worst you are dehydrated because of the heat. Tip.. make sure to have something that covers your face like a bandana.

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This, of course, is honestly not to put you off, I would never want to that because it really is a lifetime experience that I would recommend for anyone to go too. We have to enjoy ourselves and create long-lasting memories. The performances where just OH MY GOSH I saw The Weeknd (old time fave), Daniel Ceaser, SZA, Khalid (my new crush), Kygo, Ibeyi, Migos, Miguel, HAIM, 6LACK, Cardi B not to mention the incredible Beyonce!!!

Booking Coachella….

I purchased my ticket on 5th January 2018. I’m not sure when the next sale date will be but I will keep an eye out. I had no single idea what I was doing next LOL. People think I plan my holidays … I wish I did, I would most properly save a considerable amount of money! I honestly just do things on a whim and hope for the absolute best and usually, I get that!  *Clean hearts always win*

Anyways, I must remind myself not to drift!!

The festival ticket cost me around $504 dollars (I can’t remember the exact figure sorry guys!) which roughly worked out around £373. The tickets without the shuttle bus sold out quickly (but are cheaper). Second tip guys…. if you are going to organise your own travel, my advice to you would get on the website on time and have more than one person looking! The website is straight forward but the tickets sell fast. I met people that got a taxi of Uber from Palm Springs, which worked out around $40 dollars a day. If you know someone that can drive then this could also work out, but then you must think about who’s going to drive and parking etc.

Shuttle Bus

I know the shuttle bus picks people up from Los Angeles, but as I was staying in Palm Springs; it’s something you would have to research. LA is quite far from Indio, so I would suggest staying close to the festival as possible. After walking 6 hours in 35 – 40 degrees you are completely exhausted, and your feet are in so much pain. Word of advice ladies wear comfy shoes! I saw ladies in heels which is a a big NO NO! And when I say comfy, don’t go and buy Dr Martens like me 2 days prior your leavening date, thinking you can rock them all day.  It does NOT work!!

I ended up purchasing the ticket with the shuttle bus, which in my opinion worked out well because we had a shuttle bus that picked us up every day, dropped us back home and it was only an 8 min walk from our hotel! I liked the shuttle bus because it was another expense that I didn’t have to think about, whilst you’re out there you must think about buying food and importantly staying hydrated, which is another expense. I also met some lovely people on the bus, which was nice and with a British accent, it’s always very easy to make friends.

Booking Flights…

You would never believe that it didn’t occur to me that I would need to buy clothes, book a hotel and yeah of course FLIGHTS. You guys know how much I love Skyscanner right? If you don’t get to know. I have used them for pretty much every holiday I have gone too. They should really start paying me!

I was able to get a fight for £480 which was good considering I didn’t book my flight until two weeks prior to the event. Hey, now before you judge me… I’m very when it comes to flying out. I was also contemplating if I should go because of the expense, but  I realised if I booked earlier I would have said saved so much money. Another tip… if I was you, I would book my flight in Feb I saw flights for £250 pounds just didn’t purchase because I thought I could get it cheaper. Guys get that barging quick!


There are lots of other websites to use for cheap flights read MyBreakingViews 10 Travel Hacks in Seeing The World” I’ve mentioned some websites that are good for flight booking! You can thank me later

I would also suggest planning where else you are going to go… depending where you are coming from that is. If you are coming from outside America, you are looking at a 6 -12  flight, so its worth exploring LA or other states around the West Coast. I went to Vegas and Arizona for a few days (route 66), but I will save the stories for another post. Can’t give everything away, now can I?

Booking The Hotel…

My friend pre-booked the hotel and we paid when we got there. We stayed in Courtyard by Marriott Palm Springs, which was about 40 mins drive from Indio. I met people that camped, but I personally wouldn’t camp in such heat. I like to take my make up off, have a nice shower and have a bed at the end of the night. That is just me. You may want to camp, but I don’t think it’s any cheaper.

There are also Airbnb options, which I know a few people also used. I’ve heard horror stories of people getting kicked out or worst case the booking gets cancelled last min. I’m sorry I need a bed, so I can’t afford for such events!! I would say, it’s best to agree where you want to stay with whoever you are going with, then agree how far you want to be from the festival, then work out the costs and book from there.

Please note. that although the event itself is quite an expense; it’s not always the best option to go for the cheapest method. I much rather comfortability. I didn’t realise how drained I would be from walking around all day. So, take the advice that you will need to re-charge.

I hope I’ve answered most of questions and if I haven’t, be sure to leave a comment below and I will make sure another post answers your questions!

In the meantime, SHARE YOUR TIPS!!! Is there any festivals you’ve been to that you can suggest to MyBreakingViews.

I love to hear from you all.


Also Read: MyBreakingViews Travel Diaries : Coachella

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Make It A Habit To Visit A New Country Yearly.

You should always make it a habit to visit a new country.

I regret not documenting my stay in Singapore on a blog or a vlog. As many of you may know, when I moved to Singapore. I took it with both hands and also travelled to other countries in South East Asia. I am now and so will not allow the past to stop me from talking about my recent travels. For me, talking/writing about it brings it back to life – so you will all be doing me a favour!

as for me I regret to say that I forget ever boarding the plane there and even travelling to the other countries

Since I started travelling, I have made a conscious decision to travel home (Nigeria) every 1-2 years. And so far, I have achieved that. For me it’s been important to know my roots. Every time I do travel to Nigeria – which is well known for her rich culture and traditions. I learn something new about my family and the country. That’s hugely important for me. I have also, which brings me to the title of this blog post. Made it a command to myself that I travel to a new country every year. Not just a new country but a country that I would never ever expect myself to go to. Last year I visited Nigeria. Iceland, Spain, Germany and Morocco. All brand new to me (except Nigeria of course). 

Brand new; what does that mean to someone. What that means to me is that EVERY single time I make the horrid journey to the airport. Go through security and get some nice perfume or make-up from the Duty-Free Shop. There is something brand new about each journey. I notably always forget the experience of the airport which, believe it or not, I hate!  Yeah if you’re always the friend holding everyone – which I always am, it becomes a dread. 

Travel Memories

The things I do love more than compensate though:- the  different cultures, the different environments, the food. Which is mostly very new to me (I’m a pushover for trying new things – I’ve eaten duck feet before; don’t ask!). The architecture, the sense of a different identity, a different life somewhere else in another part of the world; heck even the political structure is usually completely different to my own here in the UK. 

I hope not to disappoint my readers so soon. But my travels will be coming to a slight default this year. Concentrating on more home grounded things and taking a hiatus on my travels . And taking a token off my friends book – “these countries are not going anywhere”.  I shall rekindle my travel-lust in the near future.

While I may not currently be travelling as I may have led you to expect. I do hope you learn the importance of going somewhere new – as often as you can.

What Have I Gained From Travelling?

The most important thing I’ve gained is that my character develops every time I go somewhere new. I always learn something new. I come back with an understanding of a particular moment in my life. That I didn’t get to understand when I was home. Interesting I know. But it might even be as little as learning something about the person you travel with or about yourself. All I know is that I always come back with something!

So I urge you to join me and travel somewhere different this and every year. Open yourself up to learn something new about the people around you and most importantly, about yourself – yes, this self!

So, where are you hoping to go this year? Wishing you an adventurous journey of discovery!

Also Read: MyBreakingViews 10 Travel Hacks In Seeing The World

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8 Things To Know Before Studying Abroad.

Being at University seems a long distant memory, when in actual fact it was only a few years ago that I was taking my last exams on my study abroad and getting ready for graduation. I remember it all like it was yesterday. The most memorable part of my University experience was studying abroad in Singapore.

On January 14th 2013, I left the UK on my study exchange adventure for 7 months, to the Lion City – Singapore.  It was a dream come true and actually one of the best decisions I’ve made in my life so far. In other posts you will learn exactly why studying abroad changed me! But for now I want to share some tips on studying abroad.

Now I know it was a while back but I still think there are some lessons that can be learnt from my study exchange.

1) Homesickness

Believe me it’s real, even though I thought that I can brave it out. I couldn’t. Studying abroad can lead to homesickness.

Hang on, before you judge me! I lived at home with my amazing family when I was at University and as much as I loved living in Singapore, there were plenty of times when I couldn’t wait to get home to gain a sense of normalcy. I remember that the first week was the hardest for me (except the sun and clubs of course). My room key wasn’t working, I didn’t like the food, my laptop broke 3 days before I left and I was having issues with just adjusting to the time difference (Singapore is 8 hours ahead of the UK). So, you can imagine my stress levels!

However, after a few weeks I settled in really well, adapted to the time difference, made friends with the locals who showed me where to eat, my Auntie sent me my fixed laptop and my room key was also fixed. I started to enjoy the beauty of the country and her people.

2) Keeping On Top Of Your Studies. 

I must admit that keeping on top of my studies was extremely difficult for me. Being in a new country in the heat made me feel like I was on holiday for a long time and made it almost impossible to stay motivated to study; but as I was in my final year and with a Dissertation due at the end of the year, I knew I had to snap out of holiday mode.

It’s important when you’re abroad, to know the modules you are taking and how they are marked back home. You don’t want to be like me and later find out that an A grade is a B grade back home! Trust me I wasn’t impressed!

Devise a plan of work that you need to do and stick to it – because you don’t want your school work to get on top of you.

3) Expenses 

Moving to Singapore worked out well for me. I lived at home so I had saved so much money from working part-time, but I know other people’s circumstances might be different where they live away from home. My only advise would be to plan your finances accordingly.

Some study abroad exchanges do allow their students to work on a student visa but in Singapore that was not permitted. If you can work on your study exchange go for it. If you can’t, good planning and strict budgeting is key.

4) Another travel base 

Living in Singapore was amazing. There were also so many other countries around Singapore that I could travel to. Countries that seemed a world away form the UK – like Australia – became so accessible for me to travel to… so I did.

I travelled all of South East Asia – which wouldn’t have been so accessible to me without the study exchange programme. Places like Cambodia, Thailand, Laos and Vietnam where under £100 round trip!  The prices would have been over £500 if it had been from the UK! If you are looking for cheap travel, this is the best way to go about it.

5) Applying And Preparing Can Take So Long… 

Wooow. If I remind myself of the application process, I may just say to anyone thinking to do a study exchange to forget it! I first had to write why I wanted to do a study exchange, then keep my grades to an acceptable level (this bit was the easy part for me).

Once I was accepted, I then had to apply for my student visa, accommodation, pay for my accommodation, flights, meal plans, etc, etc….. the list was endless! I was lucky enough to have my family and friends behind me who supported me all the way; and it was all worth it once it was all done.

The process is long and tedious, but well worth in the end!

6) Friends across the world for life. 

Do you like travelling? Studying abroad is a must!

Well now you have your friends places to stay when you travel. Studying in a new University does mean you will inevitably meet new people. Some people you will never see again (trust me, these people you don’t want to see!) but some people you will be able to build lifelong relationships with.

Even today, I have a friend from Malaysia whom I call whenever I need to speak to her. She has also come to visit me in the UK and spent Christmas day with my family and I.

Such friends are friends for life and it’s always great to meet up with them whenever you go travelling!

7) Embracing Another Culture 

Living in Singapore as a study abroad student showed me different types of culture – nothing like the UK! For one thing, the country has so many laws that I honestly couldn’t keep up with by myself!

Chewing gum is banned! Drugs, public affection, the usual jay walking, littering and even eating on public transport were and are most probably still all forbidden! Trust me, even my friend got caught and fined for eating ice cream on the metro (tube) –  to which she was later charged to court!

Whichever laws there are, obey them!  You don’t want to get charged to court, trust me!

8) Learn A New Language 

Now let me just stop you there and say that Singapore speaks English so I never learnt a new language.

Although I learnt Singlish (which is broken Singaporean English), i never learnt any specific languages and I’m afraid I didn’t make any attempt to but I do have friends who have also done study exchanges and have learnt new languages. So if you can learn a new language, go for it!

I do hope these tips help you and if you have also done a study exchange, do not hesitate to share the tips you have learnt from your experience.Find out where to do a study abroad here.

Also Read: The Perfect Tools on How To Apply for a Study Exchange

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Hope you have been enjoying the sun. I most certainly have! Recently attended the Royal Ascots 2017 and it was absolutely amazing! I have been wanting to attend the Ascots for so long and when one of my closest friends said she also wanted to go I knew I had to make it happen! I thought you may want to see my very short clip of the day especially if are thinking about going next year of the year after.

What am I wearing

Fascinator & Clutch:



Makeup: done by moi

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While you are here have a read of 5 Things You Need To Know About The Royal Ascots …

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